My Obstacle Course Station Ideas

I have a few questions for you.

• Do you want to do My Obstacle Course activities with your child but you have other children to tend to?
• Do you wish you could have another set of hands while doing the station activities with your child?
• Do you wish you could have some help preparing the stations or have help watching your child while you set up the stations?

I assure you that you are not alone. This is how I know (except for the “other children” part, which I have heard from other parents 🙂 )…

When Andrew was 4 and had been diagnosed with autism (pdd-nos) and apraxia of speech, it seemed that all of the other parents I talked with took their children to a program nearby designed to build developmental skills. They also had people from this program coming to their houses on days when they weren’t in therapy to work one on one with their child. I looked into this and it cost A LOT of money to have someone (usually a student or intern) working one on one with a child as well as having them come to the house. It just didn’t seem right that I should pay someone a therapist’s fee to work on basic skills that I could do at home. That said, I gladly pay the professionals that work with Andrew to use their knowledge and expertise to help move him forward. I also realize that students and interns have to learn and train, I just don’t want to pay them the same amount I’d pay a professional, even if they are carrying out the professional’s plan. But that’s just my opinion.

I looked at the skills that one particular family was working on in this program and they were so basic, I knew I could do it. At the time, I didn’t know how to make it so he’d want to work with “Mom” doing the activities (this is how My Obstacle Course came to be – so that I could work with him and have him be willing to work with me 🙂 ) but that didn’t stop me because I thought, surely since I was a teacher I should be able to do this. Now I know that I didn’t have to be a teacher – ANYONE who cares about your child can do this, which is what I hope to convey through this website and the station activity ideas I share!

When we began, my primary focus was on building his play skills and I did think it would be a good idea to have an extra set of hands to help me but didn’t want to wait until my husband came home from work. Where was I going to find someone:

• responsible?
• who could drive to our house?
• who wasn’t going to cost me an arm and a leg?
• and most importantly, who would be understanding and respectful of the interesting things that sometimes arise when working with a child who has developmental delays?

Having been in the school of education myself and having had several student teachers while I was teaching, I know that there are tons of students in education or therapy programs who are looking for a few hours of work while also getting experience applying what they are learning with children.

Post an ad at local colleges or universities that have education and/or therapy programs.

Working with a student is not only a huge help for you as a parent or caregiver, it helps them to see the family side of the children that they will be working with. This provides them with a different perspective of some challenges we face, how hard we work and how much joy we experience with even the smallest gains. I have seen them come in fairly timid and unsure of what to expect but after working together, they learn the importance of high expectations, laughter and learning through play. They are also just as excited when something we have been working on for a while finally sinks in!

If you are feeling overwhelmed and want someone to help you with your child’s skill building or if just want an extra set of hands like I did, I encourage you to reach out to any local education programs (or even ask or post something at your therapy location) to see if anyone is looking for extra hours.

Sample Request:

I am the mother of an 8-year-old son who has autism, apraxia of speech and ADHD. I live in the 100 Acre Woods area and am looking for someone interested in education or autism/speech related therapies (OT, SLP) who is willing to help me work with him at our home to build developmental and academic skills. Patience, understanding and a good sense of humor is a must! Activities for our sessions will be provided at first but I may ask you to help me prepare them in the future. You can get an idea of what sorts of things we’ll be doing from www.myobstaclecourse.com and can also get your own ideas from there once you know what we are working on. I am looking for 2 hours a week and pay $15 an hour (the going rate for babysitters in our area) and $10 for gas (since I’ll need you to drive to our home). Email me if you are interested and we’ll set up a time to meet.

I found someone through a teacher at Andrew’s school who also happened to teach a course on Early Childhood Development. I had mentioned that I was looking for some help and she emailed my request to the students in her class. The girl who responded was in the early intervention education program and was willing to come to our house once a week for 2 hours. She worked with me, watched me fumble around as I figured out what worked and didn’t work with Andrew at home (you all are benefiting from these fumbles 🙂 ), got to know Andrew, and got experience doing My Obstacle Courses with us that she eventually put to use in her early childhood class at a nearby elementary school. (She also became a babysitter I could trust so that my husband and I could go out for an occasional adults only dinner.)

Why have a student help you at home?

• Purposeful one on one time with your child at home without breaking the bank.
• Sometimes it helps to have an extra set of hands, especially when working on ball skills and turn taking.
• Someone to help with prepping materials, setting up stations or watching your child while you do this.
• Share the amazing experience of your child with someone else.

Engage, Encourage and Empower!

As parents and caregivers, there are always going to be things that we do for our children that may not be the most fun for us (carpool, sports practices, waiting rooms, etc.) but that doesn’t mean that these things have to be completely unpleasant.

I learned that by adding some things that I really enjoyed or wanted to do, I began to look at things like time in the waiting room, driving carpool, etc. as a gift of time where I had to do something for me instead of being trapped in an annoying situation. I still take Andrew to therapies and drive him to school but I go with such a different attitude because I’m getting something out of it too!

Things I’ve added:

• audio books
• MP3 recordings of classes that interest me (TED Talks are also a favorite!)
• Headphones – noise canceling or ear buds
• My new favorite app called Brain Wave which has soothing sounds (ocean, rain, white noise) along with sound waves to encourage different brain states – relaxation, focus, energy, deep sleep (great for bedtime, not so great in the waiting room 🙂 ).
• iPhone/iPad with my favorite music and movies
• DVD player with a favorite DVD or even one rented from the library that you’ve been dying to see
• Favorite pen/pencil and journal to write thoughts, ideas, lists, etc.
• A beverage – flavored sparkling water or iced lattes are my favorites these days!
• Favorite catalogs or magazines (I even bring a file folder and tear out things that make me feel good to use to create a vision board. A vision board is a collage of pictures and phrases that make one happy to look at. It’s not necessarily about “things” you’d like to have but more about the feeling you get when looking at something. As you can see from my personal board, for me, the colors of autumn and the contrast of cold snow and cozy interiors really speaks to my soul.)

Think of something that would make you feel a little bit spoiled and it may turn an ordinary, boring experience into a little treat time for you!

*I wish I were a massage therapist because I think that it would be a huge success to offer pampering services like neck and shoulder massages at therapy locations. I’ve seen these massage chairs in car wash waiting rooms, the mall and at the airport, how perfect would it be to offer this to people while their children have therapy!! Even just 10 minutes would make a huge difference for stressed caregivers.

Something For Siblings

Since Andrew is an only child, I don’t have anyone else to bring with me but if you do, you could also apply these same strategies for them – perhaps a special backpack with things they are only allowed to do when taking brother or sister to therapies or practices. Kind of like when I’m planning for a trip, I gather favorite catalogs, games and snacks to make this time more pleasant.

I encourage you to do something to take a little of the burden off of yourself and add some joy. This is about adding or making small changes to make a difference in your life and if you do it enough, your life will start to be filled with things that bring you so much joy and peace even while sitting in a therapy waiting room.

Engage, Encourage and Empower!

Note: This idea is something I learned from the book, The Joy Diet by Dr. Martha Beck and is part of a strategy she calls “The 3 B’s – Better It, Barter It or Bag It.” This tip is how I have implemented the “better it” strategy in an area of my life that was boring and blah. The vision board is an idea I learned from her book, Finding Your Own North Star.

In honor of Andrew’s first day back to school, I thought I would share how I combine what I have learned over the years as a teacher and what I have learned as his mother in order to build good working relationships with the members of his “team.” 

Working With Teachers and Therapists

I am a firm believer in meeting your child where they are developmentally and academically if you want to help them progress. I found that this got a little more tricky when Andrew started school because he wasn’t talking so I couldn’t know what he knew with regards to knowledge typically expressed verbally and he clearly wasn’t developing according to some of the timelines that we were seeing. What was he ready for? Where was he developmentally and academically? What were his strengths? What were his weaknesses? Where do we start?

All of these questions were swirling in our minds with no one able to figure it out, that is until I began doing My Obstacle Course with him and presenting him with opportunities to demonstrate his knowledge and understanding in ways that didn’t require words. As a result of doing these station activities with him, I learned where he was with regards to strengths and weaknesses in developmental and academic skills. This was so helpful because I had specific examples to share with his teachers and therapists without it just being “I think he can do this because one time he did it a few months back.” (Yes, I’m sure those exact words have come out of my mouth while sitting in one of the early intervention meetings years ago.) The information I could provide to a teacher or therapist was going to help him and would make such a difference in how they worked with him.

Building The Team

When I work with other parents many of them ask me how his teachers took it when I told them what to do. “Weren’t they mad/offended/insulted?” The thing is that I DID NOT tell his teachers what to do, I told them what Andrew could or could not do. It was up to them how they proceeded with incorporating that knowledge into their teaching. I want to work with them, let them know I am going to do all that I can to support his education and growth and part of that involves giving the information that I had access to so they could use it in planning lessons/sessions to meet his needs.

With his teachers, I did this at the beginning of the year so there wasn’t any time wasted trying to figure out where they should start and what he needed to work on. Since I was a teacher, I know how much time is spent trying to figure out where the students are in all of the different areas. Throw in some learning differences and developmental delays and they may not get the whole picture of what a child can do, especially if the areas of weakness are more noticeable (like being non-verbal) and the areas of strength more subtle (like being able to read before talking). I feel that sharing information is so important in order to have everyone working towards similar goals.

I consider everyone who is part of Andrew’s life, part of his “team” and want to make sure everyone is on the same page. I am sharing my child with them and I want them to know that he is my baby, he has people who love him, who care for him and who have very high hopes for him. No, I’m not the irritating mother who thinks her child is perfect and can do no wrong so I also want them to know that we know he is not perfect, that he can be annoying (ask anyone who works with him how they feel about ceiling fans :)!), that we acknowledge the challenging days that they may experience but that we are doing the best that we can. Conveying that message to his teachers and therapists has always been so important to me and I think it is key to having a good relationship with the members of his team.

What I Share:

When I go in for a parent meeting at the beginning of the school year (you can schedule these with your child’s teachers, you don’t have to wait for conferences!), I share with his teachers where he is in the following areas:

• fine motor
• gross motor
• social
• literacy
• math
• sensory
• play skills

Some other helpful tidbits to pass on:

How does your child learn best?

Are they visual and have to see things? Do they have to hear it to remember it? Or do they have to touch and manipulate it in order to make sense of it?

Are there any modifications that have worked in the past?

Timers, visual schedules, checklists, fine motor tools, specific room placement (front, end, away from distracting window, etc.), proximity to teacher, less visual distractions in the classroom, squishy seat or exercise ball instead of a chair, fidget toy in desk to keep hands busy, quiet/safe spot/time out (in a good way) space for them to go when they get overwhelmed

How are they motivated?

Positive words, rewards to work for, sticker charts, etc. Andrew is particularly motivated by knowing how many times he’ll have to do something or how much he has to do and so I’ve seen therapists use a set of items that get taken away as he does what he is supposed to do (Ex. 5 coins are set out. Each time he says a speech word or sound 10 times accurately, a coin goes in the bank. This provides him with all modalities of learning – visual, auditory and kinesthetic, while also creating purpose.)

What are things they really enjoy and feel good about?

Giving teachers some insight into what your child likes to do can really help them connect with them. Sharing about a specific hobby or interest is like a “fast pass” to building relationships with students. I’ve had students who were crazy about horses, African Gray Parrots, Okapi’s, planets, presidents, baseball stats, and maps. As I am writing this, I can picture each of those children and how they lit up whenever we would talk about those things. Right now Andrew is into ceiling fans so he may act like he cannot hear you, mention that you have a ceiling fan in your house and the questions will come pouring out faster than you can answer. Plus, he’ll probably want to come over and video tape them 🙂 .

What are things that cause them frustration or anxiety?

This is also so helpful for a teacher to know up front so they can be prepared with some extra motivators or they can make the decision to approach something in a different way to see if that helps ease the frustration a bit.

As for anxiety, this is something that we have dealt with a lot and it has helped his teachers to know what our routine is at home during a situation that may cause anxiety, such as seeing insects inside or when there is a thunderstorm. Ex. If there is a thunderstorm at school he has noise canceling headphones, moves to a location where the lightning cannot be seen – even if that means under a blanket, and soothing music on an I Touch. Sharing the strategies that have worked for us helps him because there is consistency and also comfort in knowing that the teachers respond right away in a calm manner instead of trying to figure out after the fact why he is physically shaking and trying to run away.

I hope that this helps gives you some ideas for how to approach building and working with your child’s “team” in a way that is most productive and helpful for your child’s learning and development.

Engage, Encourage and Empower!